So You’re Thinking About Therapy?
If you've found your way here, chances are you've been sitting with this question for a while. Maybe you've typed "do I need therapy" into a search bar at 2 am, or caught yourself wondering if what you're experiencing is "serious enough" to warrant support. Perhaps a friend or doctor suggested it, or you've simply noticed that the strategies that used to work aren't working anymore.
Starting therapy is rarely a straightforward decision. There's often a gap between recognizing something feels off and actually reaching out. That gap is filled with questions, hesitations, and a lot of "but I think I can handle this on my own."
I see this pattern often in my practice. By the time someone books their first consultation, they've usually been thinking about it for months, sometimes even years. And almost always, they say they wish they'd started sooner.
What I Notice About the People Who Reach Out
The individuals who connect with me aren't always in crisis (yes, sometimes they are). But more often, they're people who've been functioning and sometimes even thriving on the surface. But something underneath feels unsustainable.
They're navigating:
Anxiety that's become background noise they've simply learned to live with
Burnout that's seeped into how they see themselves
Postpartum overwhelm that doesn't match what they expected parenthood to feel like
A nagging sense of disconnection from who they used to be
Patterns they recognize but can't seem to shift alone
What stands out is that most people don't wait until they "can't cope." They reach out when they realize they don't want to just cope. They want something different.
The Myths That Keep People Waiting
"I should be able to figure this out myself." You probably could, eventually. But therapy isn't about capability. It's about having a dedicated space to process with someone trained to help you see patterns you're too close to notice. It's honestly not a weakness; it's efficiency.
"My problems aren't bad enough." Therapy isn't reserved for rock bottom. In fact, reaching out before things become unmanageable is one of the most proactive things you can do. Just like you don't wait until your car completely breaks down to get an oil change.
"What if I don't know what to talk about?" That's completely normal and exactly what I'm here to help with. A lot of clients start their first session with "I'm not even sure where to begin," and that's a perfectly good place to start.
"I've tried therapy before and it didn't help." Fit matters. The right therapeutic relationship can make all the difference. Not connecting with one therapist doesn't mean therapy itself isn't for you; it means that particular match wasn't right. Engaging in that first consultation is so important because it gives you a chance to ask those questions to see if the therapist is right for you.
What Therapy Actually Looks Like
Therapy isn't lying on a couch analyzing your childhood (unless that's genuinely helpful for you). In my practice, it looks more like:
Learning to recognize when your nervous system is activated and developing practical tools to regulate
Untangling thoughts that spiral and creating space between feeling and reacting
Identifying patterns that made sense at one point but don't serve you anymore
Building self-compassion in a culture that rewards self-criticism
Finding language for experiences you haven't been able to name
It's collaborative. We move at your pace. And it's less about me having answers or stating the facts and more about us discovering what already makes sense to you.
You Don't Have to Be "Ready"
Here's something I wish more people knew: you don't have to feel ready to start. You just have to be curious enough to explore whether it might be helpful for you.
That free 15-minute consultation? It exists precisely for this reason. It's a low-pressure conversation to see if we're a good fit, ask questions, and get a sense of what working together might look like. No commitment, no pressure, just clarity.
A Few Questions to Sit With
If you're still wondering whether now is the right time, consider:
Are the strategies I'm using to cope sustainable long-term?
Do I feel like I'm living authentically, or just getting by?
Am I avoiding something I know I need to address?
Would having an outside perspective help me move forward?
If any of these resonate, that might be your answer.
What Happens Next
Starting therapy doesn't mean everything suddenly shifts. But it does mean you're no longer carrying everything alone. It means creating space to understand yourself more deeply, build tools that actually work for you, and move toward a version of your life that feels less exhausting and more aligned.
You've been holding a lot. You don't have to keep doing it by yourself.
If you're thinking about therapy, even if you're not sure. I'd be glad to talk. You can book a free 15-minute consultation (click the Book Now button at the top right corner) and we can explore what support might look like for you.
